The Link Between Male Depression and Emotional Infidelity
When you think of infidelity in a relationship, what’s the first thing that comes to mind? You probably think of a partner physically cheating. That’s often the kind of affair we see in movies and, unfortunately, it happens far too often in the real world.
But, emotional infidelity can be just as damaging and more difficult to work through.
Emotional infidelity is the act of developing an emotional connection with someone other than your romantic partner. There are many reasons why people might look for that kind of connection. Low self-esteem, communication issues, and a lack of intimacy in the relationship are just a few examples. However, for men, there might also be a link between depression and emotional infidelity that should be explored.
Let’s take a closer look at that link and why depression might make you more likely to stray.
Filling the Void
Depression, for anyone, can cause a sort of emotional void. You might feel like something is missing in your life that’s leading to extreme sadness. If you feel a connection with someone other than your partner, you might think it starts to fill that void.
Everyone wants to feel seen, heard, and validated. Talking to someone who checks those boxes can make you feel better about yourself. If you’re able to open up and talk about your struggles, it can help even more. But, when that person isn’t your partner and you’re starting to develop feelings for them because of your openness, you should consider it a red flag.
Fighting Stigma
Unfortunately, we live in a world where many men still struggle to admit they have depression or other mental health issues. There is a stigma surrounding men’s mental health. Some think it’s a sign of weakness, or that they can overcome the issues on their own.
If you know you’re struggling with depression, an emotional affair might be tempting because it serves as a distraction. It gives you the opportunity to talk and connect with someone without admitting you’re struggling. It can also make you feel desirable and boost your self-esteem, which might also be contributing to your depressive thoughts.
A Lack of Intimacy
It’s common for people with depression to withdraw from loved ones and things they typically enjoy. If you’re already in a relationship, that can include intimate moments with your partner. Maybe you’ve noticed that the physical intimacy in your relationship has been lacking lately due to the sexual dysfunction caused by depression.
As a man, that can lead to feelings of guilt and shame. But, it doesn’t necessarily make it easier to want to engage in those things.
If your depression has contributed to sexual dysfunction in your relationship, an emotional affair might seem more desirable. Everyone wants to feel connected to another person, so when a relationship is struggling in one area, it can be tempting to find fulfillment elsewhere.
What Can You Do?
Not all men dealing with depression cheat — emotionally or physically. You might be more likely to commit emotional infidelity if there are already other issues going on in your relationship.
But, if you find that your mental health is causing you to seek out those emotional connections or you’re already starting to engage with someone, it’s important to get the help you deserve quickly.
Depression is often easy to manage and treat, but it’s not something you have to do on your own. Self-care practices, relaxation techniques, and leaning on your support system (including your partner) can all make a big difference. But, working with a mental health professional is the best way to learn more about where your depression stems from and how you can overcome it. Don’t let stereotypes or stigmas keep you from taking that step forward. Contact Integrative Psychotherapy Group today to set up an appointment.
